Recently, a new friend asked me a great question about adoption. I decided to go ahead and share with you my (Jessie’s) response:
“I have a question for you….
can you explain to me what that transition in your heart, mind and soul was like for you to go from pursuing fostering Yader and then having a heart to adopt him and then to a heart to spread the word that we all need to be doing this.”
Well, we knew from the gitgo that we were pursuing adoption with Yader; we just have to go through a fostering time first because that’s how the system works here.
But, there was certainly a transition in how deeply convicted (in a great way) I became about God’s heart for adoption. Initially, I believe in a very simple way that God was directing us to Yader (or, rather, Yader to us) based on crazy surreal circumstances. We sensed God saying, “Are you ready to do this with Me?” I’m sure there was some emotion at this point, but nothing directly tied to Yader. Early on, my sister-in-law asked me why we wanted to adopt. My reply was this: “I’ve always thought it was a cool thing and had the mindset of, ‘why not?’…instead of, ‘why?’ It’s Scriptural to care for orphans, and the Bible says that we ourselves are God’s adopted children. So, there are lots of reasons.”
As we got to know Yader at the children’s home prior to his arrival into our home, my heart was tied more and more to him. I began praying that God would place him with a family soon, and that if it was His will, that he would be placed with us. Over and over God answered prayers and worked in mighty ways to reveal to us that He was in control over this! He gives good gifts to his children (Matthew 7:11, James 1:17), and God gave us a good gift in placing Yader in our home.
Once Yader came to our home, we had lots of learning and transitioning to do. He may almost be three years old, but I say that our maturity level as parents is only at a six month-old level (as we’ve had Yader for only six months). What a blessing it is to have a child in my home! I reveled in it! As it began to sink in that he really was in our home, I began reflecting on Scripture that focuses on adoption. One reason I did this is because we made a photo book for our parents as gifts for Christmas. On every page, we put a Bible verse that dealt with adoption. In light of Yader being in our home, these verses lit on fire! Having Yader in our home put legs on these Scripture passages!
I’m going to list a few here:
But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name. John 1:12
He who overcomes shall inherit all things, and I will be his God and he shall be My son. Revelation 21:7
Having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved. Ephesians 1:5-6
A father of the fatherless, a defender of widows,
Is God in His holy habitation.
God sets the solitary in families;
Defend the poor and fatherless;
Do justice to the afflicted and needy.
Deliver the poor and needy;
Free them from the hand of the wicked.
Whoever receives one little child like this in My name receives Me. Matthew 18:5
For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.” Romans 8:14-15
For in You the fatherless finds mercy. Hosea 14:3b
Learn to do good;
Rebuke the oppressor;
Defend the fatherless,
Plead for the widow.
Pure and undefiled religion before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their trouble… James 1:27a
For you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus. Galatians 3:26
I came out of reading and meditating on these verses with a few peace-giving revelations:
is pleased with us to adopt
blessing is over adoption
command to care for the fatherless is obvious in
a child in need of a parent is a living and breathing, beautiful reflection of
all of us needing Him to adopt
I don’t know that every believer needs to have a child in their home as a foster or adoptive situation, but I do believe we are clearly commanded to be proactive in caring for the fatherless in some way that brings them into homes that have loving parents.